Have you ever not heard back from someone and convinced yourself they were ignoring only to later learn they didn’t get your message? Do you sometimes walk into social gatherings believing people are thinking negative things about you? What about when you wave at someone from afar who doesn’t wave back
“There are always miracles in the world, even when it seems dark.”― Eddie Jaku, The Happiest Man on Earth: The Beautiful Life of an Auschwitz Survivor I am the daughter of parents who had PTSD from World War II. My father drove a tank in front line combat in Europe and
Mental Filter Just like in the video, our brain has an ability to filter out information without our consent. The information we filter
https://vimeo.com/533722621 Self-Pity Defined: Self-pity is self indulgent dwelling on one’s own sorrows or misfortunes because you believe that you’ve suffered more than is fair or reasonable…excessive, self-absorbed unhappiness over one’s troubles that doesn’t lead to action. Self-Compassion Defined: The meaning of compassion is to recognize the suffering of others (or self)
I spent a lot of years committed to the thought that my dad shouldn’t have died when I was sixteen. Everyone agreed. The problem was that this thought pushed against a reality that couldn’t be changed and kept my focus on what I couldn’t control. The cognitive distortion of a
During his annual evaluation, Brian’s boss told him there were some areas that needed improvement. When his partner later asked how the meeting went he said, “ It was a disaster; I’m terrible at this job.” This is an example of a common thought error called All-or-Nothing (aka Black-and-White) Thinking. What happened
Sara was nervous about her first date with Brad. They had connected on Bumble and this was the first time they’d met in person. It didn’t go as she’d hoped. He didn’t look like his pictures and conversation was stiff and awkward. As she drove home that night, she kept
Simply put, blame is “to find fault with,” and most of us understand intellectually that has a corrosive effect on relationships, with ourselves and others. “We have far more power than we think to transform troubled relationships – if we’re willing to stop blaming the other person and focus instead on
Defensiveness is not a problem. It’s a solution – to our perception of threat. We all know what it’s like to get defensive, but it can be hard to make sense of our reactions. Though not always easy to uncover, when we react defensively there’s usually a part of us
“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”― Wayne W. Dyer What causes your feelings? Maybe you think your partner does, your kids, your bank account or your health? It’s common to believe our feelings are caused by people or situations in our lives –