Do you call yourself any of these in the privacy of your thoughts? Failure Success Loser Lazy Worthless Broken Fool Stupid Hopeless Defective When frustrated, overwhelmed, or stressed it’s easy to resort to name calling, especially with ourselves. This tendency is a common cognitive distortion known as labeling and, if
How often do you feel aggravated, impatient, or exasperated Marco? Your answer reveals the extent to which you believe yourself responsible for your own happiness or lack thereof. Brains have a sneaky way of turning us into victims of our own self-crafted lives and if we’re not careful, this hidden
Most people say they want to be happy by getting the things they want like a loving partner, a good job, health, money, etc. What this strategy ignores is a psychological concept called Hedonic Adaptation, which is the tendency to become adapted to an experience and desensitized to its effect.
Have you ever not heard back from someone and convinced yourself they were ignoring only to later learn they didn’t get your message? Do you sometimes walk into social gatherings believing people are thinking negative things about you? What about when you wave at someone from afar who doesn’t wave back
Mental Filter Just like in the video, our brain has an ability to filter out information without our consent. The information we filter
https://vimeo.com/533722621 Self-Pity Defined: Self-pity is self indulgent dwelling on one’s own sorrows or misfortunes because you believe that you’ve suffered more than is fair or reasonable…excessive, self-absorbed unhappiness over one’s troubles that doesn’t lead to action. Self-Compassion Defined: The meaning of compassion is to recognize the suffering of others (or self)
I spent a lot of years committed to the thought that my dad shouldn’t have died when I was sixteen. Everyone agreed. The problem was that this thought pushed against a reality that couldn’t be changed and kept my focus on what I couldn’t control. The cognitive distortion of a
During his annual evaluation, Brian’s boss told him there were some areas that needed improvement. When his partner later asked how the meeting went he said, “ It was a disaster; I’m terrible at this job.” This is an example of a common thought error called All-or-Nothing (aka Black-and-White) Thinking. What happened
Sara was nervous about her first date with Brad. They had connected on Bumble and this was the first time they’d met in person. It didn’t go as she’d hoped. He didn’t look like his pictures and conversation was stiff and awkward. As she drove home that night, she kept
“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”― Wayne W. Dyer What causes your feelings? Maybe you think your partner does, your kids, your bank account or your health? It’s common to believe our feelings are caused by people or situations in our lives –
