It’s natural to want to help the people we care about when they’re in distress, but knowing the best approach can be confusing and awkward. It’s common to want to cheer someone up in these moments, but it can backfire. Here are some types of cheer likely to leave your
“There are always miracles in the world, even when it seems dark.”― Eddie Jaku, The Happiest Man on Earth: The Beautiful Life of an Auschwitz Survivor I am the daughter of parents who had PTSD from World War II. My father drove a tank in front line combat in Europe and
“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”― Wayne W. Dyer What causes your feelings? Maybe you think your partner does, your kids, your bank account or your health? It’s common to believe our feelings are caused by people or situations in our lives –
https://vimeo.com/585983997Four Types of Sorry 1.) Polite Sorry: “Sorry for the delay in getting back to you.”This is the most common type of sorry offered to others as an acknowledgement of a minor transgression or violation of a social norm that happens as part of daily life. This kind of sorry is
https://vimeo.com/577703489People pleasing is a habit of thinking and acting that prioritizes what other people think and feel over what you think and feel. People pleasing is also a form of deception, both with yourself as well as with others. Though not conscious or intentional, attempting to try to get people to like you, approve of you or stop wanting something
I recently listened to a podcast about a man who had 80% of his body burned as a boy by his own father. I imagined how unbearable it would be to live in a disfigured body with such limited mobility; so I was shocked to hear him talk of the
https://vimeo.com/567161265Is there someone you’ve been wanting a heart-to-heart talk with? How do you decide when it’s time to speak your mind or better understand it? When it comes to relationship issues, discerning a “me” problem from a “we” problem can be a challenging distinction to make. So it’s a good idea
Imagine you overslept this morning after a restless night and woke to a late night email alerting you to an early morning meeting. In an effort to get there on time, you get pulled over for speeding and served a costly ticket. How are you feeling? Bad Overwhelmed Annoyed New
I’ve had a tendency to ask people a lot of questions. This is probably a combination of my training and curious nature. But I’ve also noticed other people seem much less inclined to do so. In fact, my husband often feels uncomfortable with my inquiries; in his family, asking anything
Thought Work is the practice of observing and working with our thoughts. The technical term for it is the skill or meta-cognition or the ability to think about our thoughts. My practice relies heavily on helping people build the skill of meta-cognition for 3 reasons: 1.) Our thoughts create what
