Why is it that when dealing with grief you process fairly easily with one person (family member is loved one) and with another you fall apart? Is it just your level of love and attachment to that person? -Anonymous When you process grief “fairly easily,” I take that to mean
Before we get into the business of love, let’s start with the distinction between love and attachment. Just because we are attached to someone, doesn’t mean we love them. In fact, I’ve had many clients over the years who have come to me in severe distress regarding their attachment to
When a friend asks you to do something you don’t want to do, which of these are you more likely to do? a.) Go along even if you don’t want to. b.) Feel annoyed at your friend for asking and say no in a way that leaves you feeling bad.
I used to believe I couldn’t dance. I believed this 100%, which made me feel incapable. I had lots of evidence to support this belief. Whenever I tried to dance, my brain would use the experience to confirm my belief. The stronger my belief, the better I got at avoiding
If you’ve had some exposure to self-help, you’ve likely come across the concept of boundaries. Maybe you feel pretty confident about your boundary-setting skills or maybe you’re not that sure or clear. Either way, boundaries are one area of self-help that’s easy to misunderstand and harder to implement than we
How often do you tell yourself you have to do something? The answer to this question will reveal the degree to which you believe you are living the life you want. Our brains have a sneaky way of positioning us as victims of our own lives, scrambling to meet our
https://vimeo.com/542305293 used to have low self-esteem. It felt awful. What was even worse was how bad I felt for feeling bad about myself. My efforts to shame myself into feeling better about myself only added to the problem. I couldn’t understand why, despite evidence to the contrary, my brain refused
Let me start by sharing one of my memorable epic fails of resolutions past. Many years ago I’d resolved to get in shape by starting the new year off with a gym membership. I decided the expensive monthly fee and 6-month contract was just what I needed to get myself