Most of us were taught to shut out painful feelings early on. We try to protect ourselves and others by shutting down or disconnecting from our feelings. It’s more acceptable to tell everyone we’re fine, including ourselves, than to acknowledge our struggle. No one teaches us how to process our
This is the second of a 2-part series uncovering common roadblocks to getting what you want with ways to kick them to the curb. Last time, you learned the pitfalls of spending too much time on what you don’t want and strategies for how to take the wheel of your
Race car drivers understand this keenly; they know in order to win (or survive) a race, they have to keep their vision on where they want to go. Letting their focus drift to a wall they don’t want to hit can have deadly consequences. The brain has a tendency to
Do you believe what you think makes you a good or bad person? I think this is a fascinating topic and one worth a deeper dive. I invite you to consider the possibility that thoughts don’t inherently have moral value. But before going on, let’s clarify a baseline understanding of
Have you ever had a strong negative reaction to something but not sure why it bothers you? Here you’ll learn 5 powerful strategies to solve the mystery. Maybe a friend shared that she’s getting married and you struggled to feel happy for her. Perhaps your mother asked you how work
“An unquestioned mind in the world of suffering,” Byron Katie We ask ourselves questions all the time and they can be the catalyst to move us forward or keep us spinning us in circles. Questions help us find and create thoughts. When applied effectively, they’re a powerful tool that supports
https://vimeo.com/542260495 1.) Find a fit. This is a necessary ingredient to all good therapy work. Therapist’s are people. They have their own personality, style, approach and training. Not everyone is going to be a fit for you and that’s ok. This is someone with whom you’re going to be sharing
Tense talks are not fun but often a necessary part of staying connected and invested in relationships that are important to us. It can be especially difficult when we don’t know how what to say, how to say it or how to keep things from devolving into conflict. That’s why
When is the last time you had a hard conversation You? Did it feel like a productive endeavor? Or maybe you felt like you’d been dragged through a real life version of Mission Impossible with little more than exhaustion by the closing credits. No one likes them, but having a
If you read the last blog, you know the difference between a belief and a thought. But even if you didn’t, it’s good to learn about the three beliefs that make everything worse. I refer to it as the Trifecta of Emotional Misery. 1.) I’m not good enough 2.) Something