This is the first in a series on the REACH Model of Emotional Intimacy. In this video, we start with the R in the model, which stands for Reflect. Here you learn how to reflect on what another person is saying and why this skill is so important in creating closeness.
Remember if you want to create closer relationships, you have to put it this step to practice by applying what you’re learning and trying it out with loved ones.
Examples to Reflect:
“I hear you saying…”
“I think you’re telling me…”
“So you’re saying….”
“Let me make sure I’m hearing you right because what you’re saying is important…”
“Let me see if I got it, what you just said…”
Keep in mind that this model only works with people you genuinely want to be close to and feel deeply invested in the relationship.
In the next step of the model we’ll take a deep dive into emotions; how to connect with them and how to communicate them, so stay tuned.
