I’ve had a tendency to ask people a lot of questions. This is probably a combination of my training and curious nature. But I’ve also noticed other people seem much less inclined to do so. In fact, my husband often feels uncomfortable with my inquiries; in his family, asking anything
This is the first in a series on the REACH Model of Emotional Intimacy. In this video, we start with the R in the model, which stands for Reflect. Here you learn how to reflect on what another person is saying and why this skill is so important in creating
You’ve learned about how to Reflect (R). In this video, you learn how to acknowledge and express the names of emotions. Here’s an Emotion List you can use to reference as you practice guessing at their emotions and sharing your own. There are many more emotions to explore beyond this list,
You’ve learned how to reflect (R) and how to acknowledge the other person’s emotions (E). In this video you learn the one-two punch of Affirming (A). Here is where you affirm the qualities and characteristics you value in the other person. “I appreciate how you’re ….”“I admire the way you
You’ve learned the first three steps in the REACH Model of Emotional Intimacy. R= How to ReflectE= How to acknowledge and express EmotionsA = How to Affirm what you’re hearing and what you value in the other person. In this video, you learn all about how to express Care to
This is the last step in creating emotional closeness with important people in your life. In this video, I show you how to access and express humility to repair ruptures in a relationship and use it to make the relationship stronger on the other side.
In this video, I pull all the steps together using an example from my personal life and let you know how I handled a difficult moment with a friendly word for word.
“I need to set a boundary on my husband’s complaining about my mother. I’m so sick of hearing it!” “I have a boundary that my kids behave appropriately during holiday meals after I’ve put so much effort to make it a nice time, but it’s never worked. ” “I need
Tense talks are not fun but often a necessary part of staying connected and invested in relationships that are important to us. It can be especially difficult when we don’t know how what to say, how to say it or how to keep things from devolving into conflict. That’s why
When is the last time you had a hard conversation You? Did it feel like a productive endeavor? Or maybe you felt like you’d been dragged through a real life version of Mission Impossible with little more than exhaustion by the closing credits. No one likes them, but having a
