Defensiveness is not a problem. It’s a solution – to our perception of threat. We all know what it’s like to get defensive, but it can be hard to make sense of our reactions. Though not always easy to uncover, when we react defensively there’s usually a part of us
Positive emotions are what we want to feel more; it’s the other end of the spectrum we struggle with. Whatever you call them; negative, painful, uncomfortable, no one wants to feel them. Yet, they are an inextricable part of being human, and refusing to feel them makes it impossible to
Trying to sell you on negative emotions is a hard sell indeed. No one wants to feel them but we all have them. We actually have a default setting to want to feel positive emotion and not negative ones. The desire to seek pleasure and avoid pain is something we
https://vimeo.com/543216228 Have you noticed how things seems to go along fine for a while and then something happens & suddenly it’s like you’ve been sucker-punched by life? If you can relate, then you are an official member of the human race; you’ve probably noticed, it seems to be part of
“Don’t be afraid of your fears. They’re not there to scare you. They’re there to let you know that something is worth it.” ― C. JoyBell C. The antidote to self-doubt is courage. You can’t overcome self-doubt without it. Most of us want to skip over courage into confidence but
What is overwhelm and where does it come from? Give your brain a second to come up with an answer… If you’re like most, you probably guessed it comes from things happening to you or maybe you figured it’s because of your to-do list or your kids or your partner.
Journaling can be an underestimated but very powerful tool for emotional health and growth. I explain to clients that journaling is how we talk and listen to ourselves. Writing things down forces the mind to slow down and allows us to get some objectivity and perspective. We have 60,-80,000 thoughts
Have you ever wondered what causes you to to feel the way you do? There are lots of ideas on this, but I’m going to offer you one here based not just on my own experience but what I’ve found empowers people the most. Last week’s blog was how to
Confidence is not something we find, it’s something we create. I used to believe I’d be confident once I got my degree. I saw my supervisors and teachers and others’ in my field, and envisioned the satisfaction of being sure of myself like they were post-graduation. When that didn’t magically
Fear is contagious in humans; probably more than any virus on the planet. Fear is not a problem; our brains are engineered to be alert to threat and avoid danger. Survival is an instinct built in to our human hardwiring; we want to stay alive, to protect ourselves and keep
